7 Things to Avoid in Your Dating Profile

Hello once again my fellow online daters, today I wanted to put together a list of the seven biggest mistakes to avoid with your profile. Looking around mens & womens profiles it's quite astounding the number of things in their profiles that reduces their chances in online dating.

1. Guys, do NOT put a picture of yourself with your shirt off (or wife beaters) flexing your muscles or lack thereof. I don't care if you have the body of Arnold Scharzeneger in his prime, putting a photo like that in your profile only serves to make you look vain and shallow to women, which is a big turnoff.

Girls, same can be said for you but to a lesser degree, don't be afraid to show off your body a bit but anything bordering on full frontal nudity and you'll be bombarded with thousands of emails from every horndog across five nations.

2. This is one that you see equally with men and women, that is coming across in your profile as either bitter or angry towards the opposite sex. Maybe you've been burned a few times, maybe you feel overlooked. Whatever it is, I'm going to ask you to get over it or at least leave it out of your profile for now.

Negativity is a big turnoff for anybody, heck even negative people are turned off by it. Even if you're trying to come across as funny or witty or sassy or whatever, keep it out of your profile. That's an order!

3. Perhaps, the most difficult area of online dating is that it can often be difficult to tell if you would be physically attracted to this person. The next item certainly doesn't help that case...

Your communicating with a dating prospect and their photos paint one picture of them but when you actually see them in person you discover that this person looks absolutely nothing like their (or in some cases someone else's) profile pictures.

The 3rd thing to avoid in your online dating profile is any picture that falsely misrepresents what you look like presently. This includes posting pictures of yourself when you were younger, thinner and pictures which have been photoshopped or glamour pics, or worse still, pictures of someone else entirely.

The goal of online dating sites is to meet this person someday in the real world so please be true to yourself and present yourself accurately. This is the biggest issue in online dating currently and it looks bad to people on the outside looking in, many people get discouraged from trying online dating sites due to some of the horror stories they've heard.

This means less people who try online dating and less people to choose from for honest folks. So please be part of the solution and not part of the problem.

4. The fourth thing to avoid in your profile is anything that is or can be considered hateful speech towards any group of people including anything to do with race, ethnicity, gender, religion, and sexual orientation. Being a hater is not attractive so keep that stuff to yourself and get some help.

5. Whatever you do, please do not ramble on and on about your past relationships, including badmouthing your ex. Or talking about your ex. It shows that you're still connected in some way to that person and relationship, nobody wants to deal with extra baggage. If you have an issue with this then try to be considerate to others and realize that they want to know that they will not be constantly compared with another. Why not consider online dating as a fresh start on relationships. Who knows? You may just meet someone who makes you forget about your ex altogether.

6. Although it's nice to let people know who you really are in your profile, I find that people often reveal too much about themselves in their profile. Maybe you're 40 year old virgin or you've never kissed a girl/boy before, or maybe you did a couple months upstate when you punched out your boss, There will be ample time in the future to reveal all that to your date, in the meantime try to put your best foot forward and leave the past where it belongs.

7. Last but not least, avoid lying about your age, weight, height, income, appearance, occupation or even gender. Slight (and I do mean slight) half-truths are ok, for example, if you're 5'9" but in your profile you state that your an inch taller, or maybe you make 35 grand a year but you state you make 40 grand.

Everyone wants to be their best self, but if you're 5'4", weigh 240lbs and live in your mothers basement then stating that you're 6'2", 190 pounds of solid muscle as well as being an astro physicist, then well, you're just fooling yourself and others and cheating yourself and others and those who may have actually been interested in the real you.